Lately, the subject of hurt has come up several times in discussions with loved ones.  Hurt:  That swirling mix of emotions that can catch us off guard.  From disappointment to confusion, from sadness to anger, hurt takes us on a rollercoaster of feelings that causes us to question our coping and can lead to an increase in anxiety. 

What types of actions am I talking about?  

• The email request for recipes that was not responded to
• The text asking for specific details that was ignored
• The conversation that ended abruptly with hurt feelings
• The thank you that was never received. 

We tell ourselves that it is not a big deal. 

• They are busy. 
• They did not mean to hurt our feelings.
• I should not be so sensitive…

And then we realize that this is how we were created – sensitive, feelers, longing for connection, and loyal friends.  Relationships bring immense joy and also lead to moments of emotional discomfort.  So, if we want to continue having relationships, we will need to find a way to navigate the hurt feelings.

If you have found yourself in such a situation, I want you to know that you are not alone and there are constructive ways to cope and heal. 

1. Acknowledge your feelings

• It is ok to feel hurt and vulnerable when someone’s words or actions impact us deeply.  This emotional journey is not a sign of weakness, but a testament to our capacity to care deeply. 

2. Explore those feelings by journaling or talking it over with someone you trust

• Exploring feelings is a part of understanding ourselves better.  It is a chance to heal, grow, and find strength in our vulnerabilities. Getting someone else’s support in our emotional journey helps us to feel validated

3. Be honest with your loved one

• If you feel safe with this person, have an honest conversation about the impact this experience had on you.  They may not know the impact their behaviour had on you. 

4. Stay resilient.  Build your supportive community.  Know that you are not alone.  Your feelings are valid, your journey is valuable and you have the power to overcome 😊  

Here’s to acknowledging our emotions and embracing our healing journey.