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What I Learned When I Stopped Fighting My Feelings

For years, I was told I was too sensitive.

• Too emotional.
• Too empathetic.

Eventually, I started wondering…

Who decides what “too much” is anyway?

I finally realized it was often the people who felt uncomfortable with emotions.

Ironically…

That included me. 😊

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When I Couldn’t Even Name What I Felt

Whenever my counsellor asked,

“How do you feel?”

I’d answer,

“I think I feel…”

She smiled every single time.

“You don’t think a feeling,” she’d tell me. “You feel a feeling.”

At first, I didn’t even understand what she meant.

So she asked a different question.

“Where do you feel it in your body?”

I didn’t know… I had to THINK about that. 😊

So she had me concentrate – where do you feel tension:

• My shoulders.
• My arms.
• My calves.
• My neck

The tension seemed to be everywhere.

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My Body Was Holding More Than I Realized

One day I mentioned to my physiotherapist that I always developed headaches while driving.

He said, “Drop your chin.”

I secretly doubted his wisdom. It sounded almost too simple.

But the moment I lowered my chin, I realized how tightly I had been holding myself.

• My shoulders were lifted.
• My hands gripped the steering wheel.
• My neck was rigid.
• My entire body lived as though danger was always nearby.

I lived on edge because my body never believed it was safe.

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My Body Was Carrying the Feelings I Couldn’t

Eventually I discovered something more…My body wasn’t the problem.

For years, I thought the tension in my body was the problem.

• I stretched.
  I exercised.
  I tried to relax.

But the tension always came back.

Eventually I realized something that changed how I saw myself.

My body wasn’t fighting against me.

It was carrying everything my heart had never been allowed to feel.

• I wasn’t allowed to be angry as a child.
• I had to get along with others.
• And put their needs first.
  • Not always a bad thing, but because I had experienced abuse, my needs were not taken into consideration
  • So I tucked my feelings into my body because they had to go SOMEWHERE.

And underneath everything else…

I was angry.

But anger didn’t have a place in my family. Forgiveness, getting along – those were admired qualities

So, I learned to become someone else.

• Pleasant.
• Helpful.
• Hard-working.
• Funny.
• Reliable.
• I laughed.
• I people-pleased.
• I procrastinated.
• I stayed busy.
• I made sure everyone else felt comfortable.

Meanwhile…My body carried the emotions I couldn’t.

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Learning to Welcome My Emotions

As I slowly began accepting my emotions, something unexpected happened.

The tension began to soften.

• Yes, I still feel angry sometimes.
• Yes, I grieve.
• Yes, my heart aches when I meet someone who is hurting.

But, I know how to accept and process those feelings now.

• They remind me that I’m alive.
• They remind me that I care.
• They remind me that God created us with emotions for a reason.

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My Feelings Were Never the Enemy

The greatest shift wasn’t learning how to control my emotions.

• It was discovering they had never been my enemy.

The more I fought my feelings…the tighter my body became.

The more I welcomed them…the more space I found to breathe.

As I learned to acknowledge what I was feeling instead of pushing it away, something inside me began to settle.

• My body relaxed.
• My thinking became clearer.
• My relationship with God became more honest.
• My relationships with other people became more authentic.

Healing didn’t happen because I stopped feeling.

Healing happened because I finally allowed myself to feel what had been waiting for years.

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Anxiety Impacts More Than Your Thoughts

For a long time, I believed anxiety lived only in my mind.

Now I understand it touched every part of my life.

Which means healing gets to touch every part of my life too.

As God gently restored each part of me, every other part began to change too.

And that gives me hope.

Because if anxiety can affect your whole life…

Healing can too.

I Wonder…

Have you ever noticed your body holding emotions you couldn’t put into words?

Where do you carry tension, and what might your body be trying to tell you?

Ready to Understand What Your Emotions Are Telling You?

Perhaps, like me, you’ve spent years trying to think your way through your emotions.

What if, instead of staying caught in the same cycle of overthinking, you could learn practical ways to calm your body, quiet the mental replay, and respond with greater clarity and confidence?

Awareness brings power.

When you begin listening to your emotions instead of fighting them, everything starts to change. Instead of feeling controlled by your emotions, you’ll begin experiencing greater peace, clarity, and confidence.

That’s exactly why I created Emotional Reset

Inside, you’ll discover simple, faith-filled tools to help you:

• Interrupt the cycle of overthinking before it drains your energy.
• Calm your body so your mind can think clearly again.
• See difficult situations from more than one perspective.
• Respond with calm confidence instead of rehearsing conversations in your mind.
• Use simple breath prayers to anchor yourself in God’s peace.

You don’t have to stay caught in the same emotional loops.

With each small step, you’ll begin experiencing greater clarity, growing confidence, and the peace God desires for you.

Emotional Reset is the perfect place to begin your journey toward restoration. Click here to download the eBook.

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